It’s easy to get caught up in the competition of life. But does there need to be a competition? Should you be doing things to impress other people, or should you be doing it for yourself? When it comes to where you live, what you do, and how you do it, it shouldn’t be to show off to the masses. Sometimes we get caught up in trying to portray a perfect image to others. Instead, we need to be worried about ourselves. If you often find yourself comparing lives, beating yourself up about not meeting life or financial milestones, or faking it to the public, it’s time to learn how to live for yourself.
What you have is what you have. Don’t worry about how other people around you are doing. What kind of house they live in, what kind of car they drive, and their financial assets are not your concern. If you’re not using them as motivation to do better in life, it’s a waste of time to compare. You are not them, nor should you want to be. In reality, you don’t know what it’s like to be them. I’m sure if you found out, you probably wouldn’t want to take the same journey. So make your own way and journey and stop looking to others.
Make A Plan
Instead of taking stock of what other people have, take stock of what you have. Get all of your assets, liabilities, etc., together and formulate a plan. Be thinking: How are you going to pay off your debts? How are you going to meet your financial goals and expectations? Set some goals as well. Know what you’re working towards, and use it as motivation to get where you need to go.
Stop Attention Seeking
Stop attention-seeking. That means a variety of things to different people. If you’re posting on social media just to make people think that you’re something that you’re not, stop it. You could be putting that wasted energy into something more productive, like meeting your goals. It can also manifest as living beyond your means or complaining about every downfall in your life. We all have problems and downfalls, and yes, sometimes we need help. Get that help from a professional and not by seeking approval from social media, your peers, and colleagues. Seeking their attention is not going to get you anywhere.
Life is hard. I think we can all agree on that. Sometimes we just want to be where we think we should be in life. That is okay, but recognize where you can improve, and do it. It does not matter how far someone is in front or behind you. Just do the best you can, when you can, and live for yourself.
Meeting Goals And Staying Out Your Own Way
Shatel Huntley has a Bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice from Georgia State University. In her spare time, she works with special needs adults and travels the world. Her interests include traveling to off the beaten path destinations, shopping, couponing, and saving.