Many couples make time for dates. The issue is, when that time arrives, they don’t always know what to do. While sticking with tried-and-true dates is still an option, it can get a bit redundant. If you want to keep things exciting, then adding in some unique choices to your date night jar is a smart move. That way, you can do something new together or enjoy the occasional splurge, ensuring your date nights don’t turn into a tedious obligation. If you’d like to know what you should be putting in your date night jar, here’s what you need to know.
What is a Date Night Jar?
First and foremost, if you haven’t heard of a date night jar, you’re probably wondering what one is. Luckily, the concept is pretty simple. You take a container and fill it with ideas for date nights (usually written on slips of paper or popsicle sticks).
Then, when it comes time to get ready for the evening out, you choose one of the ideas at random. Whatever is on that paper or stick is what you’re doing for the night.
The approach makes your date nights more efficient. You won’t spend valuable minutes debating what the two of you will do. Instead, you let fate decide.
The Kinds of Date You Need in Your Jar
When you’re putting in date ideas, you want to focus on activities that you or your partner enjoy. In some cases, this means things you both like. In others, it will involve options that really appeal to one of you that the other is willing to do, even if it isn’t their favorite.
The important part is that at least one of you feels very enthusiastic about the activity and that the other is at least okay with taking part. You don’t want to include options that one partner is adamantly against, as making one of your miserable for the evening isn’t the goal. However, at times, it’s okay if the night is more about one of you than the other, as long as you both of an equal number of chances to end up on either side of that equation.
It isn’t a bad idea to mix things up a bit, too. Don’t feel like every date has to be romantic. You can choose options that are fun, quirky, active, or anything else, as well.
Beyond that, nearly anything can go. As long as it fits in your overall budget and genuinely reflects one of your interests, consider it an option. Then, as you compile ideas, talk about them together. This will help you determine if you are both on board on at least a basic level.
Ideas for Your Date Night Jar
Customizing your date night jar is part of the fun. If you don’t know what to include, here are some ideas:
- Dinner and Movie
- Couples Massage
- Miniature Golf
- Comedy Club
- Wine Tasting
- Cooking Class
- Trampoline Park
- Night or Weekend at a B&B
- Ice Skating
- Art Museum
- Laser Tag
- Puzzle Night
- Cook Dinner Together
- Escape Room
- Indoor Picnic
- DIY Facials
- Apple Picking
- First Date Reenactment
- Sundaes at an Ice Cream Parlor
Modifying Your Date Night Jar for Added Convenience
Any of the options above can be great choices. However, you could also break them up into categories for added convenience.
For example, if you want to make sure your choice fits your budget for the day, you can color-code your options. Write higher cost options on green paper and mid-cost ones on yellow. Then, put the free dates on blue. That way, if you need to control your spending, you can select a date based on the color.
You may also want to split your dates based on whether advanced planning is required, whether they can be done at home, or any other criteria. Just consider what may make things simpler for you, and adjust the concept to meet your needs.
Whether to Toss or Repeat a Date
After you pull a date from the jar, you might be wondering, “Should I get rid of this one or put it back in the jar?” Ultimately, either option can work. If you both had a good time and the idea of doing it again is appealing, then there’s no reason it shouldn’t end up back in the mix.
However, to keep things interesting, you might want to have a cool-off period. For example, you might want to stash it away from three to six months. Then, once that amount of time has passed, you can put it back in the jar. That way, you don’t pull the same activity too close together, ensuring you can keep things fresh and exciting overall.
Do you have any ideas of what should go in a couple’s date night jar? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
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Tamila McDonald has worked as a Financial Advisor for the military for past 13 years. She has taught Personal Financial classes on every subject from credit, to life insurance, as well as all other aspects of financial management. Mrs. McDonald is an AFCPE Accredited Financial Counselor and has helped her clients to meet their short-term and long-term financial goals.